Episode 8: Women’s biggest enemies: Women?

He says:
Women are fascinated by other women.

If they like them, you can see them hug, kiss and indulge in passionate public display of affection that men wouldn’t even dream to do to each other. They call it female bonding and its considered cute. (I wonder why don’t they ever bond that way with their men friends? *Evil grin*)

If they (women) hate someone of their own sex, you can see them talk endlessly about the other, make a face at the sheer mention of the name.

Love or hate, women display it with equal passion, against each other. Let’s just say women are very emotional about women.

Men on the other hand, do not feel the need to bond regularly with other men. They don’t cuddle up with each other, don’t promise to go shopping together, don’t get angry for losing touch. You can just call up a buddy after six years and catch up exactly from where you left, with no questions asked. It’s unconditional. Guys perfectly understand each other.

They forgive and forget easily. Haven’t you noticed guys who had dated the same girl sit over a drink and laugh off their past?

When guys don’t like guys, they probably come to blows. But they don’t entertain conversation about people they don’t like because they know nothing’s permanent.

What do women talk about? Other women and their love lives, their clothes, their problems… All talk revolves around women. (And occasionally, about some cute guy they met.)

What do men talk about? Same as above.

Except for the talk of the cute guy.

But, apart from discussing women, men also talk about movies, music, technology, bike rides, places, games, cricket, politics, religion, current affairs, alcohol… but rarely do they discuss other men.

The point: Men do not obsess over themselves. Women do.

She says:
Women are fascinated by other women.

Well, look at the alternative.

The truth is men really aren’t that interesting. Not on their own that is.

Remember school, or college. Everyone wanted to date the resident jock, not because he was exceptionally smart (hah!) or good-looking, but simply because, well, everyone wanted to date him.

It’s strange but true. Men become more desirable when more women desire them.

The fact is women make men interesting.

Left to themselves, men would have no idea what to do with their days, or their lives. Think of an average bachelor pad, beer cans all over the soggy floor and used socks in the cupboards. Remember the last time you hung out at one of those stodgy men-only bars, all cigar smoke and my-bank-balance-is-bigger-than-yours conversation. Imagine a lifetime of boy’s night’s outs. Makes you shudder, doesn’t it?

Now, women, on the other hand, don’t really need men to keep themselves entertained. When women hang out with women, they really live it up — whether they’re headed for a pyjama party featuring weepy movies and deluges of potato chips, or painting the town a bright pink as they tumble from pub to pub.

And when men do turn up, the girl gang becomes even more fun, as they dissect the men, and yes, the women with them (and, usually, the dreadful things they wear.)

Does a woman complain about her friends? Of course. And then, even after the worst fight, if a friend calls for help, the same woman will leave work, drive miles, pick up chocolate cake, and sit with her till she feels better.

Why do you think even men turn to their women friends when they’re feeling down? Because women are not only better at expressing themselves, they’re also better at empathy. Which explains why women are so vocal about their friends. And why, in spite of everything, their friends remain their friends — for life.


October 2005